Pre-Marital Sex:What Every Christian Single MUST Know!

ABSTINENCE FROM SEX
What does the word abstinence mean?
It means to refrain; to decide not to do something or to stay away from for a particular period always with a reason for doing so.

WHAT IS SEX?
Pastor Pitan Adeboye of the Redeemed Christian Church of God in his book, “To Have And To Hold Forever”, described or defines sex in the following words;
“Sex is a marital act by which a couple demonstrates their love to each other. It generates pleasure and mutual satisfaction. It is an obligatory act in marriage which is essential for the health of body and soul”.

In the time past, the issue or things related to sex were not freely discussed. You hardly hear of anything about sex then. But today with the wave of the so called civilization and the exposure of young people to internet pornographic sites as well as sexually explicit films on cable TV, sex is more freely discussed but we need to know what God says concerning it.

The Word of God has answers to every issues of life.
Why? Because the Word of God created the world including the proper use of sex.

If you are ready, then let’s search the scripture together.

“Now I will answer the questions that you asked in you letter. You asked,” is it best for people not to marry?” 1Cor. 7:1 (CEV)
“But because there is so much sexual immorality each man should have his own wife, and each, woman should have her own husband. The husband should not deprive his wife of sexual intimacy, which is her right as a married woman, nor should the wife deprive her husband.” 1Cor. 7:2-3 (NLT)
“A wife belongs to her husband instead of to herself, and a husband belongs to his wife instead of to himself.
So don’t refuse sex to each other, unless you agree not to have sex for a little while, in order to spend time in prayer. Then Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” 1cor. 7:4-5 (CEV)
The above scriptural reference is fairly long but it is necessary to have a proper view and understanding of what sex is meant for and who is allowed to practice such.
The summary of the above text is that sexual intimacy as allowed by God is meant to be for married couples-couples that married properly.

A lot of ladies are living with men with the promise that they will eventually marry and continue to have sex; this is against the Word of God. You don’t assume or presumed you both are married when the necessary steps have not been taken with regards to marriage ceremony.
The truth is bitter, but it must be told!
If you want peace for your life with regards to marriage you had better heed the Word of God.

If you are a sister and the brother asking your hand in marriage does not see anything wrong with pre-marital sex, you had better run away from him before he destroys your life.
The reason why there are many failed marriages today can be linked to pre-marital sex.

The reason why couples even Christian have extra-marital affairs is because of the uninhibited sexual practices they had engaged in before they got married.
Sex is like a fruit; if a fruit is not ripe, it leaves a sour-better taste on the tongue but if it is ripe, it leaves a sweet taste on the tongue.

Reasons why you must not engaged in pre-marital sex (i.e., sex before marriage): -

1) It is a sin against God because you are using it for the wrong purpose.
2) It can lead to unwanted pregnancy
3) It can lead to hatred from the one professing “love” to you (Read 2 Sam 13:-end; the story of Amnon and Tamar).
4) It can destroy the plan and purpose of God for your life.
5) If you are a student, it can cut short your educational aspirations.
6) So many ladies even sisters have lost their lives in the course of towing the line of abortion.
7) It can give you a disease you will serve till you die –AIDS.

ALL HOPE IS NOT LOST if you have been engaging in pre-marital sex and you are ready to abstain and save yourself from future marital agony and misery; then go back to the Lord Jesus Christ and ask Him to help you. Go to God in prayers, confess, repent and forsake your sexual sins for His Words says:
“If we say that we have not sinned, we are fooling ourselves, and the truth is not in our hearts; but if we confess our sins to God, He can always be trusted to forgive us and take our sins away.” 1Jn. 8:9 (CEV)




The above topic is taken from my latest e-Book titled:”So You Want To Marry? 12 Guides You MUST Consider In Choosing a Marriage Partner”

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