Friday, June 26, 2009
On Pre-Marital Sex...
Sex is beautiful and valuable:it should not be cheapened or made shabbyIf sex is worth anything,it is worth waiting for.Treating sex as a commodity or having sex on a whim devalues it.Without love,sex becomes a meaningless as sratching your "bum".There is an alarming rise in AIDS and sexually transmitted diseases.There are also many thousands of unwanted children languishing in orphanages around the orld.All this misery being caused by a few minutes of sweaty struggle is almost obscene and i think youths or singles out there ought to realise the essence of abstaining from sex until marriage.To the youths/singles you have a choice to make!More on this @www.hubpages.com/profile/aboveonly
Saturday, June 20, 2009
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Friday, June 12, 2009
Love or Love?Christian Singles Beware...
Lust is destructive, but love is constructive; the choice is yours!
Take a closer look at the two words for a moment. Love or lust.
You will notice that both starts will the letter ‘L’ but the two words are contrary: they differ greatly in meaning and subsequently expression. One is positive and creative, the other is negative and destructive; the former is called love while the later is referred to as lust.
Love is of God and originates from Him. He is the source and fountain of love. That is why, the Bible says “for God so loved the world… (John 3:16) or another expression like “God is love ((1 John 4:8a).
Hence you must have God (Jesus Christ) in your life for you to possess and be a channel of love.
On the other hand Satan is the source of lust he is the source and fountain of lust. Satan is destructive as well as lust is. The Bible corroborates this thus:
“The thief comes only to rob, kill and destroy…” John 10:10a (CEV)
The thief refers to Satan or lust and its destructive tendencies result in robbing killing and destruction of people’s destiny to put it simply the attributes of lusts are robbing, killing and destruction. That is why there are many cases of abortion today.
Any fellow (Man/woman) that possess lust will definitely rob the other of joy; kill their essence and ultimately destroys the future of the fellow.
Before you begin to wonder “where does this leads to, let me give you a true life story (a confession rather) of a lady in a popular Nigerian Newspaper I read a couple of days ago.
The said lady confessed that she has a big problem in her life; despite the fact the she’s a graduate and working in a reputable organization as a manager.
With such a good position as well as wonderful pay package, what could be her problem, you may ask. She is between 30 to 35 years of ago. She confessed to have slept with at least one thousand (1000) men up till date because of her craving for sex, via lust.
Her problem actually started at the tender age of 17 years when she was disvirgined all in the name of love (sorry, lust) between her and the boy friend.
She has not been able to manage any long term relationship talk less of marriage. Only deliverance can set her free from the destructive tendencies of lust.
Listen dear brother or sister, if your choice of partner encourages sex before marriage what you two are doing is that you welcoming and nurturing lust in your life; a destructive foundation for your life.
If a brother or sister tells you it is either sex or no marriage and does not want to reason with the Word of God, you had better walk out of the courtship and thank the lord for exposing wrong choice.
What is happening in this so called “jet age” as regards promiscuity is alarming. A lot of single guys and gals (including those that are true Christians) see sex as an expression of love. But that is from the pit of hell!
Purpose of sex.
Sex is designed only for the marriage institution for procreation, mutual enjoyment and release of emotional tension; anything short of this is flagrant abuse with dire consequences.
Why do we have a lot of unwanted pregnancies? what about abortion? If all started with lust (not love). The moment single lady gets pregnant; the man so called love turns to hatred and denial.
For further consequences of lust, please read meditatively 2 Sam 13: 1-end.
The only place a single Christian brother or sister can find love is among the children of God i.e., those that are believers in the Lord Jesus Christ.
So, don’t for whatever reason marry an unbeliever. The good Lord will help you to make the right choice.
Further reading and mediation
(i) Consequences of lust 2 Sam 13:1-end
(ii) Attributes of love that your choice of marriage partner should possess potentially, ready 1Cor. 13:4-8; Gal 5:22-23 (NKJV or NLT or CEV version).
Click HERE for more of the writer's articles on christian courtship
Take a closer look at the two words for a moment. Love or lust.
You will notice that both starts will the letter ‘L’ but the two words are contrary: they differ greatly in meaning and subsequently expression. One is positive and creative, the other is negative and destructive; the former is called love while the later is referred to as lust.
Love is of God and originates from Him. He is the source and fountain of love. That is why, the Bible says “for God so loved the world… (John 3:16) or another expression like “God is love ((1 John 4:8a).
Hence you must have God (Jesus Christ) in your life for you to possess and be a channel of love.
On the other hand Satan is the source of lust he is the source and fountain of lust. Satan is destructive as well as lust is. The Bible corroborates this thus:
“The thief comes only to rob, kill and destroy…” John 10:10a (CEV)
The thief refers to Satan or lust and its destructive tendencies result in robbing killing and destruction of people’s destiny to put it simply the attributes of lusts are robbing, killing and destruction. That is why there are many cases of abortion today.
Any fellow (Man/woman) that possess lust will definitely rob the other of joy; kill their essence and ultimately destroys the future of the fellow.
Before you begin to wonder “where does this leads to, let me give you a true life story (a confession rather) of a lady in a popular Nigerian Newspaper I read a couple of days ago.
The said lady confessed that she has a big problem in her life; despite the fact the she’s a graduate and working in a reputable organization as a manager.
With such a good position as well as wonderful pay package, what could be her problem, you may ask. She is between 30 to 35 years of ago. She confessed to have slept with at least one thousand (1000) men up till date because of her craving for sex, via lust.
Her problem actually started at the tender age of 17 years when she was disvirgined all in the name of love (sorry, lust) between her and the boy friend.
She has not been able to manage any long term relationship talk less of marriage. Only deliverance can set her free from the destructive tendencies of lust.
Listen dear brother or sister, if your choice of partner encourages sex before marriage what you two are doing is that you welcoming and nurturing lust in your life; a destructive foundation for your life.
If a brother or sister tells you it is either sex or no marriage and does not want to reason with the Word of God, you had better walk out of the courtship and thank the lord for exposing wrong choice.
What is happening in this so called “jet age” as regards promiscuity is alarming. A lot of single guys and gals (including those that are true Christians) see sex as an expression of love. But that is from the pit of hell!
Purpose of sex.
Sex is designed only for the marriage institution for procreation, mutual enjoyment and release of emotional tension; anything short of this is flagrant abuse with dire consequences.
Why do we have a lot of unwanted pregnancies? what about abortion? If all started with lust (not love). The moment single lady gets pregnant; the man so called love turns to hatred and denial.
For further consequences of lust, please read meditatively 2 Sam 13: 1-end.
The only place a single Christian brother or sister can find love is among the children of God i.e., those that are believers in the Lord Jesus Christ.
So, don’t for whatever reason marry an unbeliever. The good Lord will help you to make the right choice.
Further reading and mediation
(i) Consequences of lust 2 Sam 13:1-end
(ii) Attributes of love that your choice of marriage partner should possess potentially, ready 1Cor. 13:4-8; Gal 5:22-23 (NKJV or NLT or CEV version).
Click HERE for more of the writer's articles on christian courtship
Monday, June 8, 2009
Pre-Marital Sex:What Every Christian Single MUST Know!
ABSTINENCE FROM SEX
What does the word abstinence mean?
It means to refrain; to decide not to do something or to stay away from for a particular period always with a reason for doing so.
WHAT IS SEX?
Pastor Pitan Adeboye of the Redeemed Christian Church of God in his book, “To Have And To Hold Forever”, described or defines sex in the following words;
“Sex is a marital act by which a couple demonstrates their love to each other. It generates pleasure and mutual satisfaction. It is an obligatory act in marriage which is essential for the health of body and soul”.
In the time past, the issue or things related to sex were not freely discussed. You hardly hear of anything about sex then. But today with the wave of the so called civilization and the exposure of young people to internet pornographic sites as well as sexually explicit films on cable TV, sex is more freely discussed but we need to know what God says concerning it.
The Word of God has answers to every issues of life.
Why? Because the Word of God created the world including the proper use of sex.
If you are ready, then let’s search the scripture together.
“Now I will answer the questions that you asked in you letter. You asked,” is it best for people not to marry?” 1Cor. 7:1 (CEV)
“But because there is so much sexual immorality each man should have his own wife, and each, woman should have her own husband. The husband should not deprive his wife of sexual intimacy, which is her right as a married woman, nor should the wife deprive her husband.” 1Cor. 7:2-3 (NLT)
“A wife belongs to her husband instead of to herself, and a husband belongs to his wife instead of to himself.
So don’t refuse sex to each other, unless you agree not to have sex for a little while, in order to spend time in prayer. Then Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” 1cor. 7:4-5 (CEV)
The above scriptural reference is fairly long but it is necessary to have a proper view and understanding of what sex is meant for and who is allowed to practice such.
The summary of the above text is that sexual intimacy as allowed by God is meant to be for married couples-couples that married properly.
A lot of ladies are living with men with the promise that they will eventually marry and continue to have sex; this is against the Word of God. You don’t assume or presumed you both are married when the necessary steps have not been taken with regards to marriage ceremony.
The truth is bitter, but it must be told!
If you want peace for your life with regards to marriage you had better heed the Word of God.
If you are a sister and the brother asking your hand in marriage does not see anything wrong with pre-marital sex, you had better run away from him before he destroys your life.
The reason why there are many failed marriages today can be linked to pre-marital sex.
The reason why couples even Christian have extra-marital affairs is because of the uninhibited sexual practices they had engaged in before they got married.
Sex is like a fruit; if a fruit is not ripe, it leaves a sour-better taste on the tongue but if it is ripe, it leaves a sweet taste on the tongue.
Reasons why you must not engaged in pre-marital sex (i.e., sex before marriage): -
1) It is a sin against God because you are using it for the wrong purpose.
2) It can lead to unwanted pregnancy
3) It can lead to hatred from the one professing “love” to you (Read 2 Sam 13:-end; the story of Amnon and Tamar).
4) It can destroy the plan and purpose of God for your life.
5) If you are a student, it can cut short your educational aspirations.
6) So many ladies even sisters have lost their lives in the course of towing the line of abortion.
7) It can give you a disease you will serve till you die –AIDS.
ALL HOPE IS NOT LOST if you have been engaging in pre-marital sex and you are ready to abstain and save yourself from future marital agony and misery; then go back to the Lord Jesus Christ and ask Him to help you. Go to God in prayers, confess, repent and forsake your sexual sins for His Words says:
“If we say that we have not sinned, we are fooling ourselves, and the truth is not in our hearts; but if we confess our sins to God, He can always be trusted to forgive us and take our sins away.” 1Jn. 8:9 (CEV)
The above topic is taken from my latest e-Book titled:”So You Want To Marry? 12 Guides You MUST Consider In Choosing a Marriage Partner”
INTERESTED? Email the author @ relationshipandmarriage@gmail.com on how to order for your copy.
Also, the Author writes for www.hubpages.com/profile/aboveonly on marriage counseling for singles and other threads on relationship.
What does the word abstinence mean?
It means to refrain; to decide not to do something or to stay away from for a particular period always with a reason for doing so.
WHAT IS SEX?
Pastor Pitan Adeboye of the Redeemed Christian Church of God in his book, “To Have And To Hold Forever”, described or defines sex in the following words;
“Sex is a marital act by which a couple demonstrates their love to each other. It generates pleasure and mutual satisfaction. It is an obligatory act in marriage which is essential for the health of body and soul”.
In the time past, the issue or things related to sex were not freely discussed. You hardly hear of anything about sex then. But today with the wave of the so called civilization and the exposure of young people to internet pornographic sites as well as sexually explicit films on cable TV, sex is more freely discussed but we need to know what God says concerning it.
The Word of God has answers to every issues of life.
Why? Because the Word of God created the world including the proper use of sex.
If you are ready, then let’s search the scripture together.
“Now I will answer the questions that you asked in you letter. You asked,” is it best for people not to marry?” 1Cor. 7:1 (CEV)
“But because there is so much sexual immorality each man should have his own wife, and each, woman should have her own husband. The husband should not deprive his wife of sexual intimacy, which is her right as a married woman, nor should the wife deprive her husband.” 1Cor. 7:2-3 (NLT)
“A wife belongs to her husband instead of to herself, and a husband belongs to his wife instead of to himself.
So don’t refuse sex to each other, unless you agree not to have sex for a little while, in order to spend time in prayer. Then Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” 1cor. 7:4-5 (CEV)
The above scriptural reference is fairly long but it is necessary to have a proper view and understanding of what sex is meant for and who is allowed to practice such.
The summary of the above text is that sexual intimacy as allowed by God is meant to be for married couples-couples that married properly.
A lot of ladies are living with men with the promise that they will eventually marry and continue to have sex; this is against the Word of God. You don’t assume or presumed you both are married when the necessary steps have not been taken with regards to marriage ceremony.
The truth is bitter, but it must be told!
If you want peace for your life with regards to marriage you had better heed the Word of God.
If you are a sister and the brother asking your hand in marriage does not see anything wrong with pre-marital sex, you had better run away from him before he destroys your life.
The reason why there are many failed marriages today can be linked to pre-marital sex.
The reason why couples even Christian have extra-marital affairs is because of the uninhibited sexual practices they had engaged in before they got married.
Sex is like a fruit; if a fruit is not ripe, it leaves a sour-better taste on the tongue but if it is ripe, it leaves a sweet taste on the tongue.
Reasons why you must not engaged in pre-marital sex (i.e., sex before marriage): -
1) It is a sin against God because you are using it for the wrong purpose.
2) It can lead to unwanted pregnancy
3) It can lead to hatred from the one professing “love” to you (Read 2 Sam 13:-end; the story of Amnon and Tamar).
4) It can destroy the plan and purpose of God for your life.
5) If you are a student, it can cut short your educational aspirations.
6) So many ladies even sisters have lost their lives in the course of towing the line of abortion.
7) It can give you a disease you will serve till you die –AIDS.
ALL HOPE IS NOT LOST if you have been engaging in pre-marital sex and you are ready to abstain and save yourself from future marital agony and misery; then go back to the Lord Jesus Christ and ask Him to help you. Go to God in prayers, confess, repent and forsake your sexual sins for His Words says:
“If we say that we have not sinned, we are fooling ourselves, and the truth is not in our hearts; but if we confess our sins to God, He can always be trusted to forgive us and take our sins away.” 1Jn. 8:9 (CEV)
The above topic is taken from my latest e-Book titled:”So You Want To Marry? 12 Guides You MUST Consider In Choosing a Marriage Partner”
INTERESTED? Email the author @ relationshipandmarriage@gmail.com on how to order for your copy.
Also, the Author writes for www.hubpages.com/profile/aboveonly on marriage counseling for singles and other threads on relationship.
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
Difference Between Courtship And Dating.Part 1
A lot of singles have mistaken dating for courtship. The two are wide apart.
Courtship is a Biblical model for the relationship between a man and woman that leads to marriage.
Everything done by both (man and woman) is within the context of the fear of God.
Courtship spans from the day a man makes his intention known to a woman and the woman accept such proposal until they eventually marry.
Dating on the other hand put romance and sex before commitment or marriage consideration. Dating happens a lot of times and more often than not ends up in abortion of unwanted pregnancy, bitterness, heartbreak, financial loss, suicide, fitting and so on.
The following case studies that I have decided to included in this free report will give you a general pattern most men and women follow in the name of loving the opposite sex. Yours is to read and consider your own life.
CASE STUDY ONE
HOW COULD I HAVE MARRIED SUCH A BEAST?
When I met my husband shortly after leaving the university, I thought I had stuck gold. He had his own house, ran a thriving business and showed me a lot of love and affection. When I got pregnant, he insisted we get married and we had lavish wedding. He’s been a good father to the two children of the marriage.
In the last few years, I’ve been regaled with stories having oral sex with some. He came home with funny smells on his person and the last strand was when a niece who came to stay during an examination complained he forced her to have sex with him.
In the end I quietly left and now am living in a flat with my kids. He’s still generous father but I kick myself for getting married to such a sex maniac. Why hadn’t I seen the signs before I married him?
COMMENTS: I feel for this woman she could be my sister. A lot of women are experiencing such disappointment why because the foundations of such marriages were faulty she could not see the true character of this man because only God can reveal the heart of men. Unfortunately for her God was not in the picture right from the onset.
The Bible says
“There is a path before each person that seems right, but it ends in death” proverbs 14:12 (NLT)
“it ends in death .” Death of such marriages, self esteem and many more.
Every man or woman is responsible for whatever choice they make as regards every area of their life, but for things to work, the fellows must follow the Divine Blueprint for choosing a marriage partner based on the infallible word of God.
Till i come your way again in next edition,the part 2 of this topic,remain blessed.
Courtship is a Biblical model for the relationship between a man and woman that leads to marriage.
Everything done by both (man and woman) is within the context of the fear of God.
Courtship spans from the day a man makes his intention known to a woman and the woman accept such proposal until they eventually marry.
Dating on the other hand put romance and sex before commitment or marriage consideration. Dating happens a lot of times and more often than not ends up in abortion of unwanted pregnancy, bitterness, heartbreak, financial loss, suicide, fitting and so on.
The following case studies that I have decided to included in this free report will give you a general pattern most men and women follow in the name of loving the opposite sex. Yours is to read and consider your own life.
CASE STUDY ONE
HOW COULD I HAVE MARRIED SUCH A BEAST?
When I met my husband shortly after leaving the university, I thought I had stuck gold. He had his own house, ran a thriving business and showed me a lot of love and affection. When I got pregnant, he insisted we get married and we had lavish wedding. He’s been a good father to the two children of the marriage.
In the last few years, I’ve been regaled with stories having oral sex with some. He came home with funny smells on his person and the last strand was when a niece who came to stay during an examination complained he forced her to have sex with him.
In the end I quietly left and now am living in a flat with my kids. He’s still generous father but I kick myself for getting married to such a sex maniac. Why hadn’t I seen the signs before I married him?
COMMENTS: I feel for this woman she could be my sister. A lot of women are experiencing such disappointment why because the foundations of such marriages were faulty she could not see the true character of this man because only God can reveal the heart of men. Unfortunately for her God was not in the picture right from the onset.
The Bible says
“There is a path before each person that seems right, but it ends in death” proverbs 14:12 (NLT)
“it ends in death .” Death of such marriages, self esteem and many more.
Every man or woman is responsible for whatever choice they make as regards every area of their life, but for things to work, the fellows must follow the Divine Blueprint for choosing a marriage partner based on the infallible word of God.
Till i come your way again in next edition,the part 2 of this topic,remain blessed.
Monday, June 1, 2009
Introduction To Marriage
Marriage is tough business at it gathers problems as it matures and it’s only the fear of God, patience, tolerance, a spirit of give and take and mutual affection between you and your wife that can make it a success.
Also a couple has to be determined to weather whatever storms there may be in the union and make it a happy peaceful union.
It is immature to choose a marriage partner out of pity, or pressure. So many men and women out there have had their fingers burnt by virtue of their choice of marriage partner; it’s your entire life that is at state.
A lot of people prepare for wedding of just one day without preparing for marriage; the result is a plethora of failed marriages-cum-divorce.
Therefore, it is very important for God (through His Word) to be involved from the on set of your decision making in choosing a marriage partner.
I don’t know your purpose of wanting to marry? But remember that your choice of marriage partner could make or mar your God-given beautiful life, leaving behind loads of regret and heart-break. I pray the Lord will help you as you allow him in Jesus’ name.
Stay blessed,till i come your way again.
Also a couple has to be determined to weather whatever storms there may be in the union and make it a happy peaceful union.
It is immature to choose a marriage partner out of pity, or pressure. So many men and women out there have had their fingers burnt by virtue of their choice of marriage partner; it’s your entire life that is at state.
A lot of people prepare for wedding of just one day without preparing for marriage; the result is a plethora of failed marriages-cum-divorce.
Therefore, it is very important for God (through His Word) to be involved from the on set of your decision making in choosing a marriage partner.
I don’t know your purpose of wanting to marry? But remember that your choice of marriage partner could make or mar your God-given beautiful life, leaving behind loads of regret and heart-break. I pray the Lord will help you as you allow him in Jesus’ name.
Stay blessed,till i come your way again.
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